April AND May.... combined because of a secret

Well, the secret's out! 

If you haven't seen my Facebook/Instagram posts, I'M PREGNANT!!! 

Our Little Frog (we call it that because we don't know the gender aaaannnd it looks like a frog in the sonogram ^^) is due to join us December 15! The photo was taken right after I told Nick that he was gonna be a dad! Friday, April 13th is supposed to be a bad luck day but I'd say it was a pretty dang good day! I woke up that morning convinced I was pregnant because I had had some tenderness, fatigue, and hunger (every 4 hours.... on the dot) and I was even more convince when I realized Aunt Flo was 2 days late on her arrival. So I took the test (Nick was already off to work) and hurried to get ready. I spent at least 2 hours wandering Target trying to find something good to announce our Little Frog to Nick! I found a set of onesies that were pretty unisex and said, "Let the Adventure Begin" and then decided to make the mugs pictured. Of course I also got the streamer thing and balloons! 

I set up my camera and phone to record two different angles when Nick walked in so I could capture his reaction... But the thing is that he doesn't like surprises and isn't very expressive. So while the video is fun for me to watch, it would probably be a let down for ya'll. He just needs time to process I guess... 

That was really all of our April news! Oh! JK! Some of you might remember that nasty rash I had for 6 weeks and the doctor couldn't figure it out?? Well... we figured it out.... BED BUGS! Barf! I normally wouldn't talk about this but it was SUCH a big part of our lives that it took over them for a bit! I found one one night when I was reading in bed and one crawled past my eye on the pillow! I FLIPPED!! I woke Nick up and we CLEANED as much as we could, found a 24 hr Walmart, bought pillow covers and everything else that we could that was helpful, spent HOURS researching what to do and generally panicked... Needless to say, we only got about 2 hrs of sleep that night. 

The start of our sleeping arrangement for the next month.... 

The start of our sleeping arrangement for the next month.... 

Luckily, management was able to get pest control out there that next morning and verify it and give us instructions on what to do... VACUUM EVERYTHING AS MUCH AS YOU CAN AND THEN RUN WHAT YOU CAN THROUGH THE DRYER FOR 60 MINS. And lucky for us we were headed out of town to San Antonio for a few days so we could essentially ignore the problem for a bit while the professionals handled it. 

San Antonio was a BLAST!! We stayed right on the Riverwalk and hung out around there the whole time. Of course we visited the Alamo which was REALLY weird because it's literally in the middle of the city! Like, Ripley's Believe it or Not museum is RIGHT across the street from it... I was definitely expecting to have to drive out to the country to see it but it was only 2 blocks from our hotel. It was SO gorgeous there though! It was drizzling that morning but it cleared up the rest of the day! 

We had such a blast! Our favorite local restaurant was Açenar (TexMex) but we had some DELICIOUS places! Although, we did go to this German restaurant to humor my dad (he's OBSESSED with all things German) and it was NASTY (the food photo)... but their ceiling was really cool! The restaurant was really cool, it's the oldest in San Antonio and was almost like an Irish Pub but I definitely could've don't without the food (never been a fan of German food). You can tell my hair didn't want to cooperate after the first day because I pulled it back. It was a FRIZZ FEST that no one wanted or needed to see.... 

But our favorite restaurant that we visited was Fogo de Chão (translation: Fire Pit). The meat was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GOOOOOOOD!!! Tender, juicy, and FULL of flavor. Hard to beat. 

We saw the light show at the Cathedral of San Fernando but mostly hung out on the Riverwalk. We did a boat tour and stopped to see all of the little signs as we walked it! San Antonio doesn't really feel like it's in the US. It's so tropical and magical that we compared it to Disneyland's Adventure land. And I know all of SA isn't that way but where we were was and it was beautiful! 

Other things that happened in April: I second shot a beautiful wedding with my friend Lexie from Lexie Krug Photography , got in my base burn while walking White Rock Lake with my mama squad, found the giant eyeball with Nick while exploring DT Dallas, and had an afternoon picnic with my love at our beloved White Rock Lake! 

Got to shower Brooke and her twins with lots of loves and lots of laughs!

Got to shower Brooke and her twins with lots of loves and lots of laughs!

May came with a lot of fun things and a lot of battle tactics to fight off the Bed Bugs... We discovered that not only was vacuuming our best friend but that the bugs don't like double sided tape and are smart enough to go around it. **Disclaimer** We did not get bed bugs because we are dirty, messy or anything of the sort. Bed Bugs do not care if your house is clean or dirty, rich or poor, they are wingless vampires that like to nest in a dark, cozy, preferably-fabric place close to where their victims sleep. Nick thinks he picked one up in an Uber on his way home from work one day... so be careful my friends! If you want to learn more about BBs just ask, Nick and I have done SOO much research and talking with professionals that we could literally write a book on it. 

Nick trying to "lure" out the bed bugs one afternoon so we could kill them...

Nick trying to "lure" out the bed bugs one afternoon so we could kill them...

I hit 8 weeks in May and of course had to take a "bump" photo lol.... there's nothing there yet but I could definitely feel my pants getting tighter. I also discovered that my dad randomly has a restaurant for Chicken Fingers-why he never told me, I'll never understand haha. 

I also had my first (and only (so far)) hormonal breakdown. It's actually a pretty funny story. I found this random account on Instagram (click here to see for yourself... You're welcome) that has all these really funny animal memes. They posted this one video that kept getting funnier as you watched it... then I of course started laughing hysterically at EVERY meme that I saw after that until I finally realized that I shouldn't be laughing as hard as I was. I was laughing so hard that tears were STREAMING down my face. And Nick just sat there. Staring at me. As if I was slowly morphing into an escaped convicted murder. And then I started crying. Because I couldn't stop laughing. And then I cried harder because I couldn't stop crying... freaking hormones. 

Nick's cousin Jackie came out from San Francisco to visit us for a weekend! We had so much fun exploring the city, eating amazing food, and binge watching 'Safe' on Netflix (SO good but has a LOT of cussing... you were warned). Of course the only photos I got that weekend were of our last meal together, and binging Netflix lol. I totally forgot to get photos at the DMA, Dealy Plaza, JFK Memorial, Outlets, and everything else that we did. 

Nick's work can be really amazing sometimes! We've got a regular date for working at the pool on Monday's since he doesn't need to be at the office. We figured he could work on his tan as well... 

Memorial Day weekend was a BLAST!! We went with friends out to Possum Kingdom Lake and boated all weekend! I wish I could easily post videos cause Nick has a great wipeout and Justin surfing to Whitney Houston is something that should NOT be missed! So grateful for these amazing friends! 

That weekend was also SUPER hard because my puppers of 13 years died suddenly from a stroke and internal bleeding. Scottie was such an INCREDIBLE dog. He was so well behaved, loving, ands incredibly scared of everything... it was hilarious! It's so hard to be without him now. He was there for half of my life. I know a lot of you know what this feels like! It's a new thing to me because he was the first to go for us. It's SO hard to lose a member of your family like that. RIP Scottie. I love you! 

May ended with me getting some genetic testing done for Baby K (when the results come in we'll have a little reveal party! Watch IG!) and me flying home to visit for a few days! It was surreal walking in the house and only having my puppers Jazz there to greet me! But the rest of that story goes into June so.... CLIFFHANGER!! lolz 

XOXO meli

 

p.s.

The Bed Bugs are GONE!!! Pest control cleared us the last Wednesday in May! Only took a MONTH!

Keep on MARCHin

And just like all months, March went by in the blink of an eye (wow, I’m an amazing poet ;] ) 

We started March off strong with VIP tickets to our favorite band’s concert, The Classic Crime! They seriously have the BEST shows! I’m not a fan of concerts unless it includes an orchestra and padded seats but I will go to a TCC concert EVERY. TIME. This time we got VIP tickets which meant we got to meet them and have a bit of a Q&A with them. So, Robbie, the guitarist, is basically my new bff. He’s also a wedding photographer (He’s got MAD s-kills!) and I had chatted with him on good ol’ FB about it once last year. Well, in the Q&A I asked what everyone else’s day jobs and mentioned that Robbie had helped me out with something because he’s such an amazing photog and HE REMEMBERED IT. **FANGIRL MOMENT** And then AFTER the Q&A he talked to us for 15 mins (while everyone else went backstage) and gave me more adviced and then showed us pics and vids of his adorbs corgi. COOLEST. GUY. EVER. 

One of the things I learned about Nick’s family early on is that there is an unspoken competition to find the next coolest/next family favorite musical artist. I still haven’t brought one to the table yet (it’s incredibly difficult) but Nick brought them TCC and we discovered them at the EXACT same concert back in high school so I like to think that if I had been apart of the family back then that I would’ve gotten credit for them. haha - The story goes that we both went to this Reliant K concert our Jr. year of high school-not together, but with the people we were dating at the time (and my BFF Lacy). We joke that we fell in love that night the second we saw each other but truth be told we don’t remember meeting until Freshman year of College. Anyway, TCC opened for Reliant K along with OWL CITY (remember him??) and we both liked TCC better than RK (but don’t tell them that lol). 

‘Back to March... Actually, the next day we got to spend our first day this year in the sun with a bunch of our friends from Nick’s work to celebrate birthdays!! They’re seriously the coolest people! We went downtown to Klyde Warren Park which is a park that they built on top of a freeway (how cool is that?!) and enjoyed the food trucks and frisbee as much as we could, it was REALLY crowded (I think everyone has the same idea). Oh, and that delicious cookie thing in Nick’s hand is the most amazing ice cream sandwich ever! It’s a double decker cookie-wich (cookie-ice cream-cookie-ice cream-cookie). Drool. 

A week or so after that Wayne and Susan (the best in-laws EVER) came to visit! We are so lucky that Wayne travels to Dallas for work and brings Susan with him sometimes! We ate SO much amazing food! We showed them this place called Maple Leaf Diner that has the craziest, most intensely LARGE, and delicious food you’ve ever had (see photo of “Carnival Burger”)!!! We also took them to see the Bloom Festival at the Dallas Arboretum and Botanical Gardens which was STUNNING. I think it was particularly stunning in contrast to the rest of Dallas that was just barely starting to green up. The Farmer’s Market was really fun and we found a delicious and quite amazing hot sauce made out of THE CAROLINA REAPER PEPPER (aka: the HOTTEST PEPPER IN THE WORLD). Not too hot, but VERY delicious. Oh. I just said that. Lol. 

TWO DAYS after Wayne and Susan left we went to UTAH for a jam-packed weekend! It started off with a recruiting event for Nick’s work that was for interested recruits and their spouses to learn about the lifestyle and what life really looks like day-to-day with such an intense job. It was really fun talking to a ton of people and seeing some amazing friends that we hadn’t seen since we moved!! The next day started with me, Ethan, and dad going to the Salt Lake Library to do his senior pictures (coming soon!) while Nick was at another recruiting event in Provo. Right after that we headed to the Bountiful Temple to go through with Alissa for the first time! It was great to have the whole family together for the first time since Christmas! The next day we got to spend a little time with my family before flying back to Dallas! 

March was really a great month which was VERY needed! 

 

 

XOXO meli

Oh. My. February.

It's taken me a while to get back to writing after my last post. I'm sure ya'll understand. But there were plenty of ups for every hard day to share!

Started off the month in the BEST way possible: MY EAGLES FINALLY WON THE SUPERBOWL!!! And man, WHAT A GAME?! Am I right?? Seriously my favorite football game of all time! 

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Victory!

You might be wondering why a girl from Utah is a fan of the Philadelphia Eagles?

2004. The year of the infamous JT & Janet Jackson fiasco (didn't actually see that, I was in the other room playing with the neighbors when we heard everyone shouting to close their eyes lol). I was 12 years old. Our neighbors, the Parry's, came over to watch the game: New England Patriots vs. Philadelphia Eagles. I watched McNabb throw a touch-down pass to Pinkston and that's all it took. Pinkston. The COOLEST last name I'd ever seen. And McNabb, Pinkston, & T.O. were INCREDIBLE to watch. The Eagles lost by 3 points that day. But they gained a forever fan. 

So seeing my Eagles not only win their FIRST Super Bowl title, but also seeing them take revenge and kick Pat-butt was the BEST!! (ha-ha suck it Pats ;P) 

Then it was MARDI GRAS!! It killed me being so close to Louisiana and not being able to go to a parade! But my mama came through and sent us some good ol' Moon Pies to celebrate with! Maybe next year we'll actually get to a parade! 

We also discovered CARLOS' FRICKEN BAKERY in DALLAS!! It's the closest one to Utah (unless Santa Monica is closer). But I was FREAKING out!! I LOOOOOOOOVED watching Cake Boss and I dreamed of making cakes like that! And guess what y'all! It's just DOWN THE STREET from us! So stinking close! If ya'll come visit us, we'll definitely take you! (The chocolate moose cake is amazing.)

We also got to watch our FAVORITE pup Moose... again! I swear I love him like he's my own dog! Mary, Brady, if for some crazy reason you ever have to give him up, WE WILL TAKE HIM!! (Even Nick said he would!) 

And even though it was cold all month... and I mean COLD, Nick and I made it on a few walks when it was nice. I really love being out and exploring all that Dallas has to offer with my man. This month especially has been SO hard to be away from our families and it's made me even more grateful to have such a rock by my side! I wouldn't change it for the world! But I would LOVE to have family come visit us more! (*hint* *hint* *cough*mom*cough*) 

I also got to make some new amazing friends at a last minute shoot, take a stroll through the Dallas Zoo with the coolest mama and her adorable twins, find a TAXIDERMY place out in the middle of no where (it's actually by the cutest wedding venue! but in the middle of THE country), and eat a DELICIOUS heart-attack-on-a-stick-and-bun (aka: Carnival Berger). 

I also got some new headshots done thanks to my amazing friends Brittany & Lexie AND I found out how hot my hubs would be if he were a SHE! ;) Isn't he smokin?? 

AND I SIGNED UP FOR ANOTHER HALF MARATHON... I think I'm broken. 

And while you see the highlights and the good times and I put on a pretty positive attitude when I write, the truth is that most days just kinda sucked. I don't share them because there isn't much to share. Just the day to day work, chores, appointments, and emotional processing time. We have been so blessed with love and support by people around us but I've found the HARDEST thing for me to get through is the fact that my life has gone back to "normal". My world keeps spinning although I don't want it to sometimes and it just takes time to process that. And I'm not so sure I'm doing a good job at processing it. So please keep loving me. Please keep talking to me even when I don't have much to say. And if you know someone going through a similar thing, REACH OUT. There's nothing worse than feeling alone and unheard. A simple text is all it takes sometimes! 

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Most of February looked something like this

I'm SOO grateful for the outpouring of love that Nick & I have received since opening up about our loss. It is such a difficult thing to go through and SO many people have been there. But what comforts me most is being able to REALLY talk to someone who knows what I'm feeling. Who gets the weird rollercoaster of being fine and even happy one minute and crying the next second because you saw a cute baby that reminds you that your time isn't yet. 

I see so often about the harm of social media. And it is REAL. Like, my kids will NOT have social media until they're at LEAST 16, maybe 21... But what if we did something to fight that? What if we shared what's REAL and how to be happier, be better, and live more fulfilling lives? 

Focusing on living a more fulfilling life is so compelling, so motivating! But I'm not exactly sure how to do it. So if you have ANY ideas on how to live a more fulfilling life PLEASE tell me! Comment on this post, email me, DM me, whatever. Just LET ME KNOW! 

 

XOXO meli

Change Your Life in 2018

"If you're bored with life- you don't wake up every morning with a burning desire to do things- you don't have enough goals."     -Zig Ziglar

On Instagram the other week I posted a photo with a caption on how to achieve your goals and I PROMISED I'd write a post about it... welp, HERE IT IS!! 

Now, I'll be the FIRST to admit that I'm not the best at achieving my goals... or even setting them to begin with. I'm definitely not one of those people who naturally has spreadsheets or notebooks of goals, dates, plans, and upcoming goals (*cough* nick *cough*). BUT, 2017 really taught me that I CAN have notebooks (or blogs) of goals and that I really can achieve them! For example: 

Going into 2017 I was going into my last semester at BYU. I was really overweight and just wanted to graduate and lose the weight. Through MANY hours of HARD WORK not only did I graduate, but I also had lost 20 lbs even though I had had surgery on both of my calves! 

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And if I can do that, YOU can do whatever you WANT TO! Hopefully, you have things you want to accomplish! I know I have some goals this year (I'm definitely sharing later) so let's accomplish them together! 

The MOST important thing you can do to meet your goals is to START! Time will pass whether you're working towards a goal or not. Just think, where do you want to be in a year from now? Do you want to be in the same place or even worse? Or do you want to make even a little PROGRESS? 

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So let's talk about the 4 steps I gave on my post and hopefully help YOU achieve your 2018 goals! 

How to Change Your Life in 2018:

1:    Write down EVERYTHING you'd like to accomplish 

It's not enough just to think about what you want to accomplish. You need to write it all down, the FULL idea/goal, and start bringing it into reality!. Writing often develops the idea more and it can also help change it in ways that make it BETTER and more REALISTIC for you to achieve! 

2: Pick 4-5 of those goals that are REALISTIC to achieve within the first 4 months

Especially when working towards something big (like losing a lot of weight) it's SUPER important to break your goals into smaller, more manageable steps! When you accomplish a goal, no matter how small, it is SOO motivating!! So make it easier for yourself and pick 4-5 smaller goals to swallow that lead towards the BIG goal. 

3: Write out a DETAILED plan of how you will achieve those goals & set specific DATES & DEADLINES. 

Isn't it so much easier to have step-by-step directions to the new restaurant you want to go to than just driving around until you happen to find it? Why not make it easier and give YOURSELF step-by-step instructions to achieve your goals? And if what if you want to take it to the next level? The answer is simple: ask someone you TRUST and who will be 10000% honest & upfront with you to HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE to the plan you set! 

4: AFTER achieving 1-2 goals, pick 1-2 NEW goals from your list & repeat steps 1-3

If you follow this, you're ALWAYS going to have multiple things to be working on. This one is SUPER important for me because I can't JUST work on one at a time! There are SOO many things I want to accomplish that doing one at a time would just take WAYY too long! AND sometimes I have to wait for something to happen (outside of my control) before I can move forward with that goal so I need something else to work on, OR I get a little bored and need to change it up a bit to keep things a little spicy

In the end, there's only one thing that really matters, DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!! If you don't know where to even start, try my method. If it doesn't work for you, figure out WHY it isn't working and change it until it DOES work for you! 

But what do those steps ACTUALLY look like? Take a peak at a few of my goals that I'm kickin off the year with:

  • Lose 26 lbs of FAT by the end of the year (that's 2.17 lbs per month) 
    • To achieve that I will exercise 6 times a week. From January to May I will do a full body lifting workout on Mondays and Thursdays and run Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Fridays, & Saturdays. I will exercise at the SAME time EVERY DAY (5am is best for me--sleep cycles) and I will track and adhere to my macros. I will also drink 2.7 liters of water (without caffeine) a day. From May through December I will focus on 3 different 12 week lifting programs while maintaining my cardio fitness. 
  • Read at least ONE book per month that broadens my intellectual, cultural, spiritual, or emotional horizons. 
    • Create and curate a list of books to pull from

So there are 2 of my goals that I'm going to be working on throughout the year! I hope its helpful to see mine and I WANT & NEED ya'll to keep me accountable! Don't be afraid to reach out and ask me what I'm reading or how my running/training is going to check up on me! 

I'd love to hear what you're working on this year! Drop a comment below!

 

XOXO meli